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Courting is far more indirect in Philippine culture than in most Western societies. Philippine relationships pass in several stages, usually lasting for a long period of time. An engagement, for example, often lasts for several years and as far as marriage is concerned, it is viewed as a lifetime commitment.

Often the starting point of a relationship is a friendly date. The couple will go out together in public places as friends only and will be accompanied by other friends. During this stage of courting there will be no public displays of affection, the man has to be discreet and friendly or he will be accused of being too arrogant. It is too early for kissing or holding hands at this point.

That is the second stage of Filipina courtship and now couples may go out together without the company of their friends. Again, the keyword here is “discreetly”.

Filipinas cannot afford to be fast, they are expected to be pakipot (hard to get) because it is seen as an appropriate behavior when they are courted. A Philippine girl never shows her admirer that she is also in love with him immediately.

Playing hard to get is one way by which the Filipina can measure the sincerity of the man interested in her. It also lets her show the man that he has to work hard to win her love. Some courtships may last for years before the woman accepts her admirer’s love and they become magkasintahan, a term for boyfriend-girlfriend.

After some time the couple may decide to come out in the open about their romance. At this time they will inform their family and friends about their relationship. Every man who wants to be taken seriously by a Filipina is obliged to visit her family and introduce himself formally to her parents. It is rather inappropriate to court a Philippine girl and formalize the relationship without informing the girl’s parents.

There is a tacit rule here that says: “When courting the filipina you are not courting just her, you are courting the entire family”. Following this rule will help you earn her respect by entrusting her family with high regard.

There are certain traditions that have to be observed when visiting the Asians family. For example, if the man wants to be acceptable to the girl’s family, he has to give small gifts (pasalubong) every time he drops by her family's house. If you have any questions regarding which traditions you should observe, you may discuss them with the older siblings. Engagement and Marriage

After being a couple with your Filipina for quite a time and decide to get married, the first thing you should do is pamanhikan (ask the girl’s parents for her hand).

When courting a Filipina you will find that she is shy and reserved even when holding great feelings for you. This is a part of her culture and even for a Western man there is no way around that. You should treat your Filipina with respect, lead the courtship with your heart and you may find a lifetime partner that will enrich your life as you have never imagined.

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For example, take the expectation that a partner will help the other’s family. Thailand’s economy is fast growing, but it has passed through a turbulent past. As a result, a large part of the Thai society is underprivileged and not educated. But Thai people yearn for learning and mixing with the mainstream world. So much so that even in hotels, requests have been displayed for tourists to distribute English learning books for the benefit of underprivileged Thai people. Such yearning is reflected in dating behavior very distinctly and it is expected generally of the groom (but in some cases the girl too) to help the partner’s family grow. After the first few dates, if the boy and girl decide to go steady, gradually the parents or brothers and sisters join the meetings, maybe for a short while, where peculiar issues ranging from business to education or any other specific issues are discussed.

In marriage, the boy or girl is generally free to choose their own partner. While dating, each person makes sure that the would-be partner satisfies all the expectations. As such, dates are used to test the behavior of the partner to be. A partner is expected to be an active listener. During dating and even otherwise, Thais often do not overtly say what they are really feeling and thinking and expect the partner to read the nonverbal queues. It is a no-no to talk straight when there are gentler alternative ways to say the same thing. It is also in bad taste to make a partner lose face over an argument in public. Thai people are not loud and would avoid their display of love or arguments in public. Even if you are sitting at an adjacent table, you may not be able to comprehend anything said by the Thai couple, while they would have covered all the subjects under the moon. Occasionally, if any of the partners feels upset over any issue, the other party has to understand through nonverbal clues only.

Nowadays, drug use is becoming a major issue in Thailand and this time is also extensively used to find out whether the partner has any such problem. During dating, Thai girls ensure that the partner exercises self-control, self-discipline on spending money and demonstrates loyalty and honesty. Dating time is the time when both parties show the best in them; both dress nicely, show patience during conversation and being too assertive, showing too much of Machismo work counterproductive during dating.

Generally it is the boy, who takes initiative for dating. It would be impolite for a boy not to invite a girl for lunch or a movie on the first date. It would mean that the boy is not serious, if he does not invite her for an outgoing, social first or second date. However, Thai society is more liberal than many Asian countries and a girl can also take the first step towards dating. In fact, nowadays, data is emerging that girls in the age group of 19-27 earn more than boys and are taking more initiative for dating. During dating, casual but neat dress is in vogue for boys, however, both boy and girl appear to be totally masked with rich perfume.